AoE 3 Definitive Ed

hey there! so me and my buddy installed AoE III DE, everything works fine i can play a skirmish no issues there, but the moment i try a multiplayer game i ready up it loads in but when the bar hits full it brings me to another load screen and just crashes anyone else have any solution to fix this? ive had a look around and had no luck to get it fixed yet

Thanks for your support!