Again, the game freezing isn’t because of ingame lag. It is an outside problem that makes it lag. Ask the same people you are playing against. They won’t feel your ‘lag’.
The fact that other games are also badly developed doesn’t make a difference. Look at the update that allowed units to go through walls… that would easily have been noticed if they actually tested before release. Now Malay are still broken and it’s been nearly two weeks without an update despite being discovered hours after release. Things like this need to be immediately hotfixed. But that’s another topic tbh
DE charges people extra for featured bugs such as mining gold from docks if you have the DLC installed. I’m not sure all these features carry over to Voobly, but at least I’m able to play there after DE took my money and banned me from multiplayer after I played too many games, turning DE into a single player only experience which is not what anyone should support when we have the OG AOE2 still running strong from Gold Edition CD.