Dummy mad because i was playing mali

so i had a teammate who was playing teuton. who got mad at me for playing eco and not defending his land.
now since i was playing eco i could’nt really help. so thats my bad. and to be honest, it might be my fault. but
we had another teammate who was playing order of dragon (Which is defense) and my other teammate (One who was mad at me) blamed all his problems on me. now yellow wasnt getting attacked at all, infact he had already expanded to most of the map. so, why yellow didn’t go help is beyond me. my braindead teammate started blaming his problems on me. and so when i actually get raided, push them back, then go help red , HES STILL MAD AT ME? and worst of all, yellow, who has’nt protected red AT ALL, says IM gonna get reviewed for griefing.
am i wrong here? i really suck at aoe4 so i don’t know if i should have done something different or what.
and if you’re wondering how the match ended, yellow resigned and also red, so i got completely overrun and lost.