Trouble finding my friends Lobbies in both LAN and Multiplayer

Im kinda new to this. When me and my friend (both being connected to the same network, and both running the lates version of AOE: DE) try to get into a game together we cant find each others games in both LAN and Multiplayer lobbies. Neither button is disabled or so for either us us. Both of us can create games in both LAN and Multiplayer, but even so we end up never finding each other.

We both bought the game via MS Store. Inviting the other through Xbox doesnt work either.

Anyone got any solution for this?