I do see the big picture, the problem is you are either really bad at math or purposefully ignoring reality in a feeble attempt to strengthen your argument.
Here is the really simple picture: there are 9 maps in the selection at any one time. As a premade team you can ban 4 of them. That leaves 5 maps that are left to choose from. So letās go with your example and say they ban Arabia, BF, Arena, and team Islands (this is often what I do when leading a premade team). In the pool right now that would leave MegaRandom, African Clearing, Crater, Crossroads, and team moats. Unless your team bans the other 4 maps besides African clearing (which is a Nomad map) then you are not guaranteed to get Nomad. So this disproves your manipulating the system argument, which by that you really just meant you donāt like it when other people ban the map you want to play. Using your bans is not manipulating the system, it is literally part of the system. Do you know what IS manipulating the system? Hitting Alt F4. They didnāt make an in-game option for quitting when you see the map on purpose. By doing this you are enforcing your preference on others, as you complained about. You are a hypocrite.
Why are you not willing to play any of those other 5 maps? (MegaRandom, African Clearing, Crater, Crossroads, and team moats) And while weāre at it what is wrong with 4 lakes? These maps are competitive, but what I think you mean by competitive is your sweaty, super practiced build order for Arabia that you googled doesnāt work as well on these maps.
Banning 1 map is not selfish, even if it is the most popular map. I am willing to play all the other maps, sometimes even Arabia and I never hit Alt F4 or quit immediately. Youāre selfish for effectively banning all the other 8 maps and doing it in a way that wastes a lot of other peopleās time. That is straight toxic selfishness.
Letās see these stats, post a link with statistics about peopleās map preferences. Sounds like some people who like Arabia think nearly everyone likes Arabia. I guarantee you this is not the case. If all these other maps are so unpopular then we wouldnāt have an Alt F4 problem, because everyone would agree on Arabia. It is only because people have strong and varied preferences for maps that we have this issue. You are just biased and assume a great majority of people have the same preference as you.
Hereās the thing, the game modes are called RANDOM MAP and TEAM RANDOM MAP, random is literally in the name of the game mode. So donāt queue in this game mode if you are not willing to play at least 5 of the 9 maps in the pool.
The devs are not being toxic, they are just not giving YOU exactly what you want. I think they made a decent system if only people would be flexible with what maps they play and not be so selfish as to use Alt F4 then we wouldnāt have any problems. The devsā job is to try to please as many people as possible and this is clearly what they are trying to do, they just need to close the Alt F4 loophole. Devs actually do a great job matching teams by skill, kudos to them for that.
My preference isnāt even centered around open or closed maps, I donāt care for BF or amazon tunnel, but every once in a while it can be fun. I like variety and playing new maps, I donāt want to play the same map over and over. I do concede your point that Nomad maps are inherently less competitive as there is a much greater amount of luck/RNG. However, in my opinion, they can still be a lot of fun due to all the resources on the map allowing for epic comebacks. It does feel bad to get screwed in the beginning due to luck though, so I can agree with you there. Just ban Nomad if you hate it so much, you always have at least 1 ban, problem solved.
To get to the real difference behind our map preferences it probably comes down to build orders. I donāt want to spend time practicing build orders and I donāt want to play against people that have looked up the best build orders and practiced the crap out of them. It is much more fun in my opinion to have to figure it out on the fly yourself. Screw all that sweaty practice, Iām not playing for money, Iām playing for fun. Iām guessing you like your build orders, Iām also guessing you have practiced them a lot. This is the real reason you want to play Arabia exclusively and the reason I love MegaRandom, 4 lakes, and any new map.
It seems like there are 2 types of AOE players: people who like build orders and people who like winging-it. Build order people just want Arabia or maybe Arena. Those that like winging it probably have a wide range of different maps they like and so their preferences as a group are divided between all the maps. This likely makes Arabia and Arena the most popular maps, but if you split it up between build order maps (Arabia and Arena) versus all the other maps you probably get two pretty even groups of people. If you take a poll of all the AOE 2 players and ask them if they would like to only play Arabia or keep the system as it is now then I bet you would be clearly in the minority. Your map preference does not represent the vast majority of AOE 2 players.
To summarize, the reason you only want to play Arabia is that you lose a lot more on all the other maps and you care way too much about your elo. You stand on the shoulders of whoever developed your build orders because I bet you didnāt figure out that math on your own. Your elo is inflated and if you had to play maps besides Arabia I bet it would come crashing down.
The day is coming when the devs fix the Alt F4 loophole. Iāll be able to ban Arabia forever.