Whatever I do... I lose

I play as French, and I rush, kill vills… doesn’t matter, I get beaten, either with counter attack and spam of rams or with fast age ups.

I play with chinese, I have a lot more resources, doesn’t matter, I get defeated.
They come with a huge spam of cannons and castles, while I only managed to get a few out.

It really doesn’t matter what I do, and I need advice

Step 1, post in the correct forum section. You’re clearly not talking about AoM here.