I understand what you are talking about, the rule regarding the forum is this.
If it is not understood, I explain, users can freely have the discussion that you exemplify in your thread, it is taken as a heated discussion, and although yes, it can be tedious, the users of this forum (and of the Internet in general) can be So.
If someone flame or insults you, do not hesitate to report it with the corresponding tool, the moderators will take charge.
PS: Since this thread doesn’t have much to do with AoE2, I’m moving it to another category.